Becoming the Person You Needed When You Were Younger

Hello everyone, and welcome back to my blog. I hope you took in some important information reading my last blog post, where I was talking about how to embrace your flaws. If you haven't checked it out, please be sure to do so. I wanted this week's blog i want to feel a bit more personal. It's about becoming the person who needed but didn't have when you were younger.

As a social worker, I realized how much of a lesson comes from our own experiences

I'm pretty sure when we were kids, we felt lost, unsure or misunderstood. Sometimes, when you were younger, you may have felt that you needed love, comfort or someone to remind you that everything would turn out okay. I think as we grow old, we tend to realize that we can be the person not for others but for ourselves.

The times when I felt like no one truly understood me come to me as I reflect on my younger self.  I needed someone who would listen to me without passing judgment, let me know that my feelings were real, and let me know that my aspirations were important.  These days, as I mature and discover more about myself, I make an effort to be kind, patient, and reassuring to myself.

It's not about changing your past to become the person you need. It's being there yourself in the way you would like to be viewed by others. It transforms your suffering into meaning and growing stronger, smarter and softer as a result of our experiences. 

Take a moment to thank your younger self for learning and your present self for continuing to grow. Remember, we can't change the past, but you can use it to guide yourself to grow and learn life lessons.

I came across this video on TikTok that perfectly talks about this idea. The creator named by jb_copeland spoke about healing your inner child with a direct relation to my blog about becoming the person you needed but didn't have when you were younger.

What a great takeaway from this video is how genuine and emotional the message was, him saying, “you are the hero that little you were looking for.”It reminds people that growth doesn't erase the pain of the past, but it helps us carry it differently.

This post resonates with me because it reminds me that we have moments when we wish someone were there for us. But as we were adults, we got to be the people who we needed, who listened and reminded ourselves we were worthy of love.

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